Appreciate the Daily Successes too

This is the long way around the tree to get to the daily successes, but the lesson learned to get there matters. In the search for the date I graduated from college, found a two page letter full of emotional abuse. Everything I had worked so hard to achieve was thrown in my face. Everything he had done for me, he threw in my face. Made me feel guilty for everything he had done for me and than demanded a weekly report of my job hunt, including names and phone numbers who I interviewed with. I didn't do as demanded, because I knew then it was wrong. Finding it again has reopened my eyes to the emotional abuse that I have received from him and everyone in my family. Not writing this to bash them, writing this to show that even after all these years, nothing has changed and its now up to me. For the first time, I feel free of them and even allowing myself to feel I have to work for their approval. Maybe I can finally appreciate all my own efforts of standing on my own, without asking them for help and doing it. I may be in a job I can't stand, but I haven't quit it either. I'm writing to encourage anyone who has been the target of verbal, emotional abuse, that they can stand on their own without the approval of others. Appreciate your daily achievements as well as the bigger ones. We get so side tracked on the working for the bigger goal, we forget to appreciate the smaller daily ones. Even if it means starting from the basics, like getting the kitchen clean after putting it off just to make others mad because they ordered you to do it. Or cleaning out the closet for a thrift store trip to thin out the clothes-shoes-hand bags you don't use anymore. And lastly, being an amazing parent and getting the kids ready for school and out the door on time each day, even those days your late.