Tiny house vs. Roommate

Watching a rerun of 60 minutes last night about the bank foreclosure and kids with their parents are getting put out on the street just turned my stomach. It sure rang home to my current situation. Unable to find a place I can afford to live on my income. Landlords are as greedy as the bankers. With a 3 month waiting list for affordable housing from the county/state and giving them full control of how much I will be able to earn aka putting a thumb on my potential of earnings, also turns my stomach. Earn too much and they take the place from you and/or hand you a back bill for a year's worth of rent they helped pay. With sub temps and no desire to freeze my ass off in my car, I'm forced to pay weekly hotel rent, which kills my budget. I'm busting my butt to keep me 911 savings intact, but it is hard. Zero housing options that I can afford and don't know anyone who is looking for a roommate. There is a 3bd, 1ba I could afford with a roommate, but don't know who would go in on it with me. Not apposed to having a roommate, my schedule makes me a good one, I'm gone when others work 9-5 shifts. Been trying for weeks to figure out a way to afford the cost of a small tiny house build. Then it occurred to me that I may have better chance at asking my friends for a small amount each to help me get it built. I've looked at the fund raising sites online and I just don't feel comfortable with them. I found an 8x12 possible shed convert to tiny house that would work great for me. There would be areas I couldn't cut corners, but many others where I can. A roof over my head that would always be mine is all I want.

Emotional Blackmail

It is one of the biggest ways you can hurt your friends and loved ones. And it is just plain silly to make someone feel like a piece of poopoo to build your own ego. Everyone have value, everyone is important, everyone has the right to be happy. Emotional Blackmail is cruel and is highly habit forming by others and can only be slowed to a stop be the person who is the blackmailer. In my discovery here of late, I have found that I've been a receiver of EB and to my embarrassment also a blackmailer to some degree. I'm working on me and have no control over how others close to me treat me or feel about me. I'm healing me for me. If they want to see positive change in me, they will also have to embark change of both EB behavior as well grasp passive aggressive, they do go hand-in-hand. 

This holiday season, if your family is insane with fights, insults, and all the side affects that come with them. Move off into the corner of room and observe what is actually happening, the pattern of words and try not to cry as it all becomes clear to you that everyone is in reaction mode to the pattern of the chosen words.

Now, I buy books. You know those things that you walk into an actual bookstore to buy. Yep those. For me, they are an investment, something I won't simply give away once I'm done with it. My lastest book is Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward, Ph.D. It will make you open your ears and rethink everything you hear and say, for the better. We, as a community, really don't need to be nasty-mean-hateful-cruel to each other. It actually is a choice we can make.

Fear

Obligation

Guilt...

(should be)

Funny

Observant

Greatness...

(instead).