Grieving for a Friend

Evening and sorry for it being so long in between posts.

I'm trying to find my way thru something brand new to me; and that is the death of someone I knew and respected; my friend's mom is now gone. I'm not family or married into the family. We are friends. I too miss this women and only want to share and laugh about the silly things she did in her life. The strange thing is that each time I ask when is a good time to come by and visit, my questions go unanswered and I'm left to wonder. He is grieving and I totally respect that, I too am grieving and the only person I can talk to is him. He has huge life changing decisions to be making and I respect that. But every time I ask what I think is a simple question turns out to be a heavy question for him. We don't talk on the phone, which is part of the issue, so we are in the middle of something and we text instead. Maybe I'm being selfish, I don't know for sure, I just know I have feelings too and at a loss to voice them. Thus, I am here again, my only real outlet.

This is new to me. Not everyone has experience in deaths around them.