Emotional Blackmail

It is one of the biggest ways you can hurt your friends and loved ones. And it is just plain silly to make someone feel like a piece of poopoo to build your own ego. Everyone have value, everyone is important, everyone has the right to be happy. Emotional Blackmail is cruel and is highly habit forming by others and can only be slowed to a stop be the person who is the blackmailer. In my discovery here of late, I have found that I've been a receiver of EB and to my embarrassment also a blackmailer to some degree. I'm working on me and have no control over how others close to me treat me or feel about me. I'm healing me for me. If they want to see positive change in me, they will also have to embark change of both EB behavior as well grasp passive aggressive, they do go hand-in-hand. 

This holiday season, if your family is insane with fights, insults, and all the side affects that come with them. Move off into the corner of room and observe what is actually happening, the pattern of words and try not to cry as it all becomes clear to you that everyone is in reaction mode to the pattern of the chosen words.

Now, I buy books. You know those things that you walk into an actual bookstore to buy. Yep those. For me, they are an investment, something I won't simply give away once I'm done with it. My lastest book is Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward, Ph.D. It will make you open your ears and rethink everything you hear and say, for the better. We, as a community, really don't need to be nasty-mean-hateful-cruel to each other. It actually is a choice we can make.

Fear

Obligation

Guilt...

(should be)

Funny

Observant

Greatness...

(instead).